Assertiveness - Be true to yourself

My daily draw for today is Assertiveness from The Magical Messages from the Fairies by Doreen Virtue. We see a fairy freeing herself from the boundaries of a tree. She is showing us her true self. And she should, because she is gorgeous, radiant and unique as we are all. It is not so strange I've pulled this card today because on various blogs I've been reading about standing up for yourself and reclaiming your own power.
The caption says: “Stand up for your beliefs, and only say yes if you really want to”.

My previous post about Green Tara has touched this issue slightly.

Being assertive is not the same as being aggressive; it is merely stating your believes and opinions. When you start out with ”I….” nobody should be offended or hurt because it is your opinion which is as valid as everybody else's.

"Assertiveness, honours everyone's rights (including your own)...:  Speak your truth with love; and let go of unhealthy, old communication habits"

Assertiveness is all about being open and lowering your shield; showing the world who you truly are. You don’t have to apologize or feel guilty for who you are. You are worth it to be heard and to be seen.

"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”― Dr. Seuss,

Magical messages from the Fairies – Practice, practice, practice

 Yesterday afternoon my youngest daughter M. came home from shopping and she had bought me two gifts. Just like that. It was such a sweet surprise. First she gave me a little package which held a beautiful crystal : a mixture between black tourmaline and  clear quartz. Isn't that symbolic for how life is for most of us.

Magical Messages from the Fairies

I was so amazed when she had yet another present for me. She had bought me The Magical Messages of the Fairies by Doreen Virtue. M. knew I liked it because she has this deck too. What I most like about this deck is the uplifting spirit and although it is a fairy deck its messages can be very practical and they are a great counterweight to the  more deep and psychological decks I have. But don’t be surprised for this deck messages can be very profound and accurate too

Of course I've picked my daily card from this deck and I've got “Practice, practice, practice” - With daily practice, you can polish your skills and talents and increase your confidence.  It’s obvious this fairy takes her music seriously and she enjoys her practice because she notices she is making progress. I was raised with the saying: “practice makes perfect”  Why , I wonder, wasn't the phrase : “Practice delights” or  “Practice fulfills” or something like that. Perhaps perfectionism wouldn't be that great an issue; who knows.

Lately I am very fascinated by the hare. I think I've noticed this animal  first in the Wildwood Tarot (Queen of Bows, Two of Stones) and later on I seem to encounter it on various blogs. This animal is connected to the moon (moon hare) and to several mythologies which I have to explore yet.

Black Tourmaline- Clear Quartz

This brings us back to my daily draw. I want to draw a hare, but I am again, sorry for whining, afraid I will fail. This card encourages me to make an effort and just try. This will cut both ways: I will practice drawing a hare and I will face my insecurity .When I look at my crystal I see the beauty of  the dark stripe accentuate the white clear parts. Perhaps my insecurity is such a stripe …

Express Your Individuality! How hard can that be?

Magical Messages from the Fairies

For a little breathing space I drew this card from the Magical Messages from the Fairies by Doreen Virtue. But it turned out to be a card with a rather striking message: Express Your Individuality – Allow your true self to shine because you’re awesome! This fairy is an elderly lady with a purple dress, striped stockings and red hat. She is totally at ease and comfortable with who she is. She is proud of herself. Not for what she has accomplished or for what people think of her but purely for who she is: Herself.

Being your true self and not being afraid to show your enormous potential, talents and power is another life long journey for many of us. Most of us are raised not to stand out in a crowd. Not to be different than everybody else. This has taken root during our  puberty  and later on in life some of us have made some progress to detach from this peer pressure. But who can truly say they are comfortable to stand out and feel safe to shine and be great. When I come across these kind of people I envy them…

The guidebook says:

 “You drew this card because you worry about social acceptance. The Fairies want to celebrate your uniqueness, since to them you’re delightful and perfect just as you are right now. The Fairies love your creativity, and they urge you to just be yourself. Don’t squelch your true self in order to gain others’ approval. Pretending doesn't work anyway, and you can’t please everyone. Instead, enjoy being authentic and trust that like-minded people will be attracted to you."

Perhaps it all starts out with fully accepting and loving who we are, so we will be completely comfortable with our own perfect individuality. Don’t hide your own light. The next step can be showing our real radiant selves to others

Have fun in exploring you awesome self!