tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post6530061309963592235..comments2024-01-19T16:13:06.054+01:00Comments on Greylady's Hearth: Six of Pentacles - Receiving isn't easy Ellenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02617686222764658629noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-74150726430419208132018-04-05T21:00:15.986+02:002018-04-05T21:00:15.986+02:00LOL. Exactly!LOL. Exactly!Cher Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04558847290318571936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-43813424761638792002018-04-05T11:03:27.767+02:002018-04-05T11:03:27.767+02:00I can so relate to this. I often wonder if I am ab...I can so relate to this. I often wonder if I am able to sense someone's needs why can't they make the same effort for me. Am I not important enough? then I probable put on a face which says; don't ask me asnything ☺Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02617686222764658629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-10856372076132065342018-04-04T22:13:01.949+02:002018-04-04T22:13:01.949+02:00I can totally see where you are coming from with t...I can totally see where you are coming from with this. I'm extremely independent, but I wouldn't mind some help every now and then. I'm not sure, but I think I might be a little passive aggressive sometimes. If I'm struggling and someone is close enough I feel they should be able to know this, I won't ask, but I do expect some help, but most of the time I don't get it. Not sure if that makes sense the way I said it. lol. I end up just doing it all myself. :)Cher Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04558847290318571936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-88958500907831008662018-04-04T16:16:13.071+02:002018-04-04T16:16:13.071+02:00Our upbringing has certainly a great influence on...Our upbringing has certainly a great influence on how we behave in this matter. Luckily over time we have developed the capacity to overcome some of the imbalance we experienced in our childhood. But it's not easyEllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02617686222764658629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-29687874299405736932018-04-04T16:12:37.962+02:002018-04-04T16:12:37.962+02:00I can relate to the last part of you comment so we...I can relate to the last part of you comment so well. I find it so hard to feel obligated to others. Or if others try to play the guilt game on you: I did this for you so....you should...Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02617686222764658629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-69782862703092885582018-04-04T01:29:31.551+02:002018-04-04T01:29:31.551+02:00I certainly relate to your post today Ellen. I was...I certainly relate to your post today Ellen. I was this way for so many years not wanting to ask for help. I think I learned some of this from my mother who was very independent and had to rely on her self. I was the same. I can still cut my nose off to spite my face in not wanting to ask for help. Until up up against it and in some kind of dire straights. It's partly false pride and partly thinking people will simply say no. Sometimes I've been overwhelmed with the kindness and generosity of others. But I've also learned many who are this way, have also struggled with asking for help, but others have been kind and generous to them as well, and so they are paying it forward, as they say. I try to do the same now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08478520659409723872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-5639918926121765062018-04-03T23:12:44.202+02:002018-04-03T23:12:44.202+02:00One of my great lessons is to learn to be gracious...One of my great lessons is to learn to be gracious when others gave to me. It took a tornado to teach me the lesson. I always gave, thus always, not because it is better to give than receive, but the fear of what others would want from me if I accepted their gift, of time, money, support, you name it. Carolyn Tindorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18021732104470702542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-63187955593349379232018-04-03T16:48:03.199+02:002018-04-03T16:48:03.199+02:00That's what I try now... To be open to dare to...That's what I try now... To be open to dare to be vulnerable and to make mistakes. Perhaps being willing to receive also means letting go of controlEllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02617686222764658629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158245992923239671.post-38706593558817441412018-04-03T15:53:21.694+02:002018-04-03T15:53:21.694+02:00this ties in with my comment on Carolyn's blo...this ties in with my comment on Carolyn's blog today. A lot of what I've given was unasked for, they didn't need or want it :) Sometimes we do learn things as we go along. If we are open to it.Sharyn Mallow Woerzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17776056375534578046noreply@blogger.com